: A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men can also guide you through other conversations and decisions.
It’s great you have learned from this experience and reinvented yourself and your marriage.
Sexuality is a spectrum, though, so I think it’s something more fluid. I cannot even imagine how hurt you feel, but allowing yourself to pretend that a duck is not a duck will not help anything.If he just wanted a change or was feeling bored or having a midlife crisis or something, AND HE WAS STRAIGHT, he would have had an affair with a woman.The issue here is what it will mean to your marriage that your husband is attracted to men.One big reason is that I fear I won’t be enough for you.Another reason is that I myself find this really disorienting and uncomfortable. But we need to figure out how to get through this while being true to ourselves, or how to separate amicably without hurting each other or the kids.” The book Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?